GUEST POST: Taking Control
Posted by Tisha Tolar on January 12, 2009
This is a guest post from Jody Richards, a student of Make Money From Writing. Jody is currently exploring a new career, working from home and has asked to guest post on Empowering Mom Blog. Congratulations Jody! It’s a great post! You are on your way!
When I was graduating high school, I was sure I had my life all in order. I knew exactly what I wanted and the direction my life would go. Boy, was I wrong! I got married and I had my first child. That part of my life was like I planned, but with no doubt far from my dream! I think every Mom can relate that after having a child, as much as we all don’t want to admit it, we begin to lose control of our life’s direction. Life then becomes about nothing but the children. Now don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t give mine up for the world! I never really realized that being “MOM” also meant, being a chauffeur, a counselor, a referee, an alarm clock, receptionist and a “make everything all better for “EVERYTHING”, along with the roles I did expect like teaching morals, growing in faith and the obvious, caring for my precious gems (and the dogs, cats, rabbit and fish!) in every way.
On top of all that I had the regular “wife” duties: cooking, cleaning, laundry, banking, bill paying and appointment setter. All this while holding down a full time job outside the home. Lucky for me, I am one of the few fortunate ones to have a husband that, I must say for the most part, takes equal responsibility in these tasks.
It wasn’t until after my second child was born and my first in kindergarten, that I really began feeling overwhelmed and had the desire to stay home. Of course, the bank account and bills made that idea virtually impossible. Thinking that I wasn’t happy with my current job, I decided to move forward to another. This was one of the hardest endeavors I have faced (until this point in my life) since my current job was working the family business with my mother. But I did it. I found the courage to move on. Don’t be fooled, I love my current job. It is an interesting and continuing learning experience for me. I had the same job and routine every day, but always something different. (I now work in the medical field at a doctor’s office). I enjoy it greatly, but there are those days that I simply want to stay home.
Now I have both kids in school, both involved in various extracurricular activities, me volunteering to help 
out with such events, and a husband that is involved in everything. When I say everything I mean pretty much that! President of the local fire company as well as an assistant chief there, Army National Guard, running for township supervisor, coaches the kids’ teams, besides his full time job. You name it, and he has his name tied to it somewhere! We have a nice new house, where the work is never ending; we just built 10 months ago. This all said I guess you know my desire to be a “stay home mom” has grown immensely. Especially after spending 18 months as a single parent while my husband served in Iraq. I finally realized it was time to put my words into action!
Within each and every one of us lies power. The power to accomplish anything we want to and make each dream become a reality. The one question we must ask ourselves is,
“How bad do I really want it?”
Once again, I reached deep down inside and pulled up the courage to make the jump!
So here I am….writing my very first post! I am so excited!
Trisha Wagner said,
Thanks for sharing your story with us! Getting started is the hardest part….believe me I know
I look forward to seeing more of your work!
Tisha Tolar said,
great job, jody! hope to see you back here soon!
His_wife52 said,
Ask how long the benefits will last. ,
Sad87 said,
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